When your relationship is at peace, life is just easier.
Feeling understood, supported and accepted by a loved one happens to be how nature makes us resilient to the stress and tragedy that life will always throw our way.
As explained by the neuroscience of attachment, love and care are actually superpowers that makes us physically healthier!
Yet when you feel invalidated, let down or unsupported the opposite is true.
Your brain lights up in pain, registering ancient ‘danger’ signals. Suddenly, the connection that could make you strong is a source of stress. Instead of being restored by your partner, you might find yourself working out, meditating or doing more yoga just to survive your relationship!
Here at Thrive, we help you to see the positive intentions underneath arguments and resentments.
After all, the reason you feel so angry, let down or criticized by your partner is because they matter enough to you that they can hurt you.
The secret to restoring the superpower of safe connection is looking at the hidden messages below your disagreements.
For example, when your partner doesn’t seem to listen, tries too hard to ‘solve the problem,’ shuts down or disappears into work, they may have a concealed message: “I feel totally overwhelmed like I can’t do anything right in your eyes. I feel you can’t love me as I am. Being criticized by my person is so scary that it’s easier just to disappear.”
Here’s another one: If you feel nagged by a partner who wont get off your back, there may be a softer message that is harder to hear: “I feel so scared and alone right now. I want to tell my person how much I need them here with me, but I feel like they’ve abandoned me because I am ‘too much.’ I try to tell them I need them but it comes out as anger and it pushes them away even more.”
Talk about lost in translation! Fortunately, our counsellors offer a safe and non-biased space that can remind you that fear and anger are just the shadows of love and the healthy need for each other.
Speak each other’s language again
We’re here to be that straight-talking, in-your-corner support you always wanted; we’ll never hide behind jargon or let anything get in the way of the truth you need to hear. And because of this, together you will learn to share the needs that lie beneath the arguments and disagreements, getting out of the dance of invalidation for good.
Is Thrive right for me?
If you know your life could be better, but just don’t know how to get there…
If you want to wake up every day feeling motivated and passionate about your life…
If you’re ready to leave behind your past and put work into yourself where it counts most…
Then congratulations, we’ll do amazing things together!
How fast will I experience results?
We’re not just saying this for hype, but we’ve had clients tell us about immediate changes for good they were able to make in their lives after only 3 weeks with us. Once you’ve made the commitment to yourself to improve, you’ll see powerful, lasting results in your mental state, your energy, your happiness, and your relationship is as little as six weeks. And if you’re not the type to commit – even to yourself – don’t worry, that’s where our road will begin together.
Does insurance cover your fees?
Yes! Our Registered Clinical Counsellors (R.C.C.)’s fees are reimbursed by many extended medical plans such as Pacific Blue Cross, Great-West Life, EAPS, and ihaveaplan.ca (UBC/SFU students).
How private are our sessions?
Our office is soundproofed to ensure maximum confidentiality, and our records are kept under military-grade encryption.
Unless you or those close to you are in imminent danger, anything in session stays between you and your counsellor. (Your clinician will review confidentiality in your first session).