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Couples Counselling

Cultivate joy and resilience in your relationship.

Safe connections help us heal

Feeling understood, supported and accepted by a loved one is how nature makes us resilient to stress and tragedy.

Love and care can make us physically healthier. Yet, when we feel invalidated, let down or unsupported, the opposite is true.

Our brains light up in pain and our bodies sense danger. Suddenly, a safe connection is flipped on its head, actually becoming a source of stress.

Does this sound familiar?

When your partner doesn’t seem to listen, tries too hard to ‘solve the problem,’ shuts down or disappears into work, they may have a concealed message: “I feel totally overwhelmed like I can’t do anything right in your eyes. I feel you can’t love me as I am. Being criticized by you is so scary that it’s easier just to disappear.”
If you feel nagged by a partner who won’t get off your back, there may be a softer message that is harder to hear: “I feel so scared and alone right now. I want to tell my partner how much I need them here with me, but I feel like they’ve abandoned me because I am ‘too much.’ I try to tell them I need them but it comes out as anger and it pushes them away even more.”

Learn to interpret the messages hidden in your disagreements

The secret to restoring safe connection is learning to recognize and interpret the messages hidden underneath your disagreements.

Through Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, our counsellors will help both of you:

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Recognize the positive intentions underneath all the arguments, defensiveness and protest

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Overcome negative cycles and patterns of behaviour

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Learn to tackle problems together, as a team

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Understand how to nourish each other and foster resilience in your relationship

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Feel present and safe with each other

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Rediscover the joy of being together

At Thrive, you will find a safe and non-biased space where you will quickly see this isn’t about being right.
It is about feeling heard and understood, and learning that it isn’t you versus each other, it is both of you versus destructive styles of problem-solving.

Learn to break the cycle. A world of care and kindness awaits.

Fear and anger are just the shadows of love — learn to face and integrate them together

Rates

$150 + GST

Counsellor

$170 + GST

Director

$50 + GST

Intern