Cultivate joy and resilience in your relationship.
Safe connections help us heal
Feeling understood, supported and accepted by a loved one is how nature makes us resilient to stress and tragedy.
Love and care can make us physically healthier. Yet, when we feel invalidated, let down or unsupported, the opposite is true.
Our brains light up in pain and our bodies sense danger. Suddenly, a safe connection is flipped on its head, actually becoming a source of stress.
Does this sound familiar?
When your partner doesn’t seem to listen, tries too hard to ‘solve the problem,’ shuts down or disappears into work, they may have a concealed message: “I feel totally overwhelmed like I can’t do anything right in your eyes. I feel you can’t love me as I am. Being criticized by you is so scary that it’s easier just to disappear.”
If you feel nagged by a partner, there may be a softer message that is harder to hear: “I feel so scared and alone right now. I want to tell my partner how much I need them here with me, but they’ve abandoned me because I am ‘too much.’ I try to tell them I need them but it comes out as anger and pushes them away.”
Learn to interpret the messages hidden in your disagreements
Through Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, our counsellors will help both of you:
Recognize the positive intentions underneath all the arguments, defensiveness and protest
Overcome negative cycles and patterns of behaviour
Learn to tackle problems together, as a team
Understand how to nourish each other and foster resilience in your relationship
Feel present and safe with each other
Rediscover the joy of being together
At Thrive, you will find a safe and non-biased space where you will quickly see this isn’t about being right.
It is about feeling heard and understood, and learning that it isn’t you versus each other, it is both of you versus destructive styles of problem-solving.
Learn to break the cycle. A world of care and kindness awaits.