Mohit Bassi

Mohit Bassi: Online Counselling for Patterns That Keep Pulling You Back

Mohit Bassi is a Registered Clinical Counsellor at Thrive Downtown who offers online counselling for individuals and couples in British Columbia and across Canada, with a reflective, patient and curious style. If you can see a pattern clearly and still get pulled back into it, this guide explains how Mohit works, the approaches involved, and how to begin from wherever you are.

When Insight Is Not Enough

Mohit’s page describes a frustrating experience many people know well. You understand the pattern. You can explain it. Yet stress still follows you home, a familiar conflict still returns, and your own wants still get buried under work, family or cultural expectations. Insight matters, but on its own it rarely changes the habits of a nervous system that learned them for good reasons.

Why patterns are so persistent

• They were once protective, helping you cope, belong or stay safe
• They live in the body as much as in thought, so they fire before you can reason with them
• They are often reinforced by the people and systems around you
• Changing them can feel risky, even when the old way hurts

Mohit works with adults and couples who want to look closely at these patterns and what keeps them going. The focus is not only on explaining a pattern, but on noticing it as it happens, in the body and emotions, so a different response becomes possible.

A Reflective, Patient and Curious Style

The Carl Rogers quote on Mohit’s page speaks to the heart of this style: change grows from acceptance, not pressure. Mohit describes listening closely, asking questions and paying attention to the body and emotions as much as to the explanation. Some people want a more active counsellor, others need more space, and Mohit adjusts depending on the person and the moment.

What sessions can feel like

• Room to think out loud without being rushed toward conclusions
• Thoughtful questions that help you see what sits beneath a reaction
• Gentle attention to what your body is doing as you talk
• A counsellor who can be more directive when you need structure, and quieter when you need space
• Humour, once it feels natural between you, because healing does not have to be grim

Integrative Psychotherapy: Fitting the Approach to You

Mohit lists integrative psychotherapy among approaches. Integrative counselling means drawing on more than one model and choosing what fits the person, the problem and the moment, rather than making every client fit a single method. For you, that could mean EMDR for a memory that keeps intruding, emotionally focused work for relationship patterns, somatic awareness for chronic stress, and reflective conversation for making sense of it all.

• The focus follows what matters most to you right now
• Approaches can shift as your needs change over time
• Body, emotion, thought and relationship are all treated as part of the picture
• You are invited to give feedback on what is helping and what is not

This flexibility is especially helpful for people whose struggles do not fit neatly into one category, such as a neurodivergent adult dealing with burnout, cultural pressure and a strained relationship all at once.

EMDR with Mohit Bassi

Mohit Bassi is EMDR-trained. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is a structured therapy that helps the brain reprocess memories and experiences that still feel charged. While you hold part of a memory in mind, bilateral stimulation, such as alternating eye movements or tapping, supports the brain’s natural ability to file the experience in a less distressing way. EMDR Canada offers background on the approach.

How EMDR can work online

Because Mohit currently offers counselling online, it helps to know that EMDR can be adapted for secure video. Many EMDR clinicians use on-screen visual cues for eye movements, or guide clients through self-administered tapping, such as crossing the arms and alternately tapping the shoulders. Preparation and grounding skills are especially important online, so you feel steady in your own space before and after processing.

• Choosing a private, comfortable spot where you will not be interrupted
• Having water, a blanket or a grounding object nearby
• Agreeing in advance on a plan if the connection drops
• Leaving a little time after the session before returning to work or family

Learn more about EMDR therapy at Thrive.

Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples

Mohit completed the 24-hour Externship in Emotionally Focused Therapy through the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy and the Vancouver Centre for EFT, and lists EFCT among formal trainings. The externship is the foundational training in this attachment-based model.

Looking at the cycle, not the culprit

With couples, Mohit is interested in the cycle that keeps pulling both people back into the same conflict, rather than deciding who is right. Emotionally focused therapist Sue Johnson described several common patterns she called “demon dialogues”:

• Find the bad guy: both partners blame and attack, each trying to prove the other is the problem.
• The protest polka: one partner reaches and protests louder while the other defends or withdraws.
• Freeze and flee: both partners pull back to protect themselves, and the relationship goes cold.

Naming the dance can bring immediate relief. Once both people see the cycle as the shared enemy, it becomes possible to slow it down and share the fears and longings underneath. See Thrive’s couples counselling page for more.

What an emotionally focused couples session might involve

Early sessions usually map the cycle: what each partner does when they feel disconnected, and what they feel inside when that happens. Later, the counsellor helps each person slow down and share the softer emotions beneath the reaction, perhaps fear of not mattering, or worry about failing the other. As partners respond to each other in new ways, many couples describe feeling more like a team again. The pace is guided by both partners’ sense of safety.

Attachment and relational therapy for individuals

Attachment and relational approaches also shape Mohit’s individual work. They explore how early bonds shaped your expectations of closeness, support and conflict, and how those expectations play out with partners, friends, family and colleagues today.

Masking, Neurodivergence and Reading the Room

Mohit connects well with people who spend a lot of energy reading the room, masking, or recovering after social situations, whether or not a diagnosis is part of the picture. Neurodivergence, ADHD and autism are listed specialties.

Signs masking may be costing you

• Needing long recovery time after meetings, parties or family gatherings
• Rehearsing conversations beforehand and replaying them afterward
• Feeling like you are performing a version of yourself most of the day
• Struggling to know what you actually prefer when no one is watching
• Exhaustion that looks like burnout or low mood from the outside

Counselling can offer a place where you do not have to mask, and where you can explore how to spend your energy more sustainably. Thrive’s neurodiversity counselling page shares more about the team’s affirming approach.

Culturally Responsive Counselling with Mohit Bassi

Mohit was born in India and raised in BC, and describes this as having made Mohit attentive to family roles, belonging and the pull between loyalty and independence, without assuming culture explains everything about a person. Cross-cultural issues and immigration difficulties are listed specialties, and Mohit offers counselling in English and Punjabi.

Themes that often come up

• Balancing family expectations with your own goals, relationships or career choices
• Feeling at home in more than one culture, or fully at home in neither
• Navigating guilt when choosing independence feels like disloyalty
• Immigration stresses such as isolation, changing roles within the family and adjusting to new systems
• Intercultural relationships where partners carry different assumptions about love, duty and conflict

Counselling in Punjabi

For some clients, certain feelings or family dynamics are easier to describe in Punjabi, or in a mix of languages. Being able to move between English and Punjabi can help you express things as they were first felt and heard. You can let Mohit know which language, or combination, feels most natural.

Culturally responsive counselling treats your background as meaningful context while still seeing you as an individual. You decide how much culture belongs in the conversation.

Immigration difficulties can also echo across generations. Parents and children may adapt at different speeds, leaving each side feeling misunderstood. Counselling can help you make sense of those gaps and find ways to stay connected to family while still building a life that reflects your own values.

Burnout, Depression and Anxiety

“You keep functioning, but stress follows you home.” That line on Mohit’s page describes a kind of burnout many high-functioning people live with for years. Depression and anxiety can hide in the same way, beneath competence and busyness.

How the work may help

• Somatic awareness: noticing tension, fatigue and alarm signals in the body before they build.
• Understanding drivers: exploring the beliefs and roles that keep you overextending.
• Hearing your own wants: making room for needs that have been buried under obligations.
• Processing what is stuck: using EMDR where past experiences keep feeding present stress.

Small experiments between sessions

Change often starts with small, low-risk experiments. You might try noticing the first physical sign of stress each evening, saying no to one request that would stretch you too thin, or setting aside ten minutes to ask yourself what you actually want. These experiments are not tests you can fail. They are information you bring back to the next session.

If you are in crisis, call or text 988, or call 911 in an emergency.

Online Counselling with Mohit Bassi Across BC and Canada

Mohit currently offers online counselling for individuals and couples in British Columbia and across Canada. Online sessions can make regular counselling easier to fit into busy lives and are available from wherever you feel comfortable. Read more about online counselling in BC at Thrive.

Tips for a good online session

• Use headphones for privacy, especially if others are home
• Sit somewhere you can speak freely, even a parked car if needed
• Close other apps and notifications so you can stay present
• For couples, sit side by side with the camera able to see you both

Starting Counselling with Mohit Bassi

1. Free 15 minute consult: book a free consult with Mohit, or use the contact form to be matched.
2. First session: online, you talk about the patterns you are noticing and what you would like to change.
3. Collaborative plan: together you decide how EMDR, emotionally focused work, somatic awareness or relational exploration fit your goals.
4. Ongoing sessions: continue online by secure video for individuals or couples.

Questions worth bringing to the consult

• How would you approach a pattern I already understand but cannot seem to change?
• What does EMDR look like when it is done online?
• How do couples sessions work over video?
• Can we switch between English and Punjabi if that feels easier?

The consult is also a chance to notice how it feels to talk with Mohit, which is often the best guide to fit.

The Thrive Formula in Mohit’s work

• Regulate: somatic awareness to help your body step out of constant alert.
• Reveal: exploring cycles, attachment patterns and cultural pulls.
• Reclaim: hearing your own wants and choosing responses that fit who you are.

Fees vary by service, and current rates are shown when booking or on the contact page. Many extended health plans reimburse counselling with a Registered Clinical Counsellor, so check your plan. You can also browse the Thrive team.

Mohit Bassi FAQ

Does Mohit Bassi offer in-person sessions?

Mohit currently offers online counselling for individuals and couples in BC and across Canada.

Can I have counselling in Punjabi?

Yes. English and Punjabi are listed as Mohit’s languages.

Do I need a diagnosis to talk about masking or neurodivergence?

No. Mohit works with people who mask or feel drained by social situations whether or not a diagnosis is part of the picture.

Is Mohit a registered counsellor?

Yes. Mohit is RCC #18858, a designation granted through the BC Association of Clinical Counsellors, and holds an MEd in Counselling Psychology from the University of British Columbia.

Can couples do EFT online?

Yes. Mohit offers online counselling for couples, and emotionally focused work adapts well to video sessions.

How active will Mohit be in sessions?

It depends on what helps you. Mohit describes being more or less active depending on the person and the moment, so you can ask for more structure or more space at any time.

What if I do not want to focus on culture?

That is completely fine. Mohit is attentive to culture without assuming it explains everything, and you guide what feels relevant.

Connect with Mohit Bassi Online

Seeing the pattern is a start. Changing it is easier with support. You make sense, you are not broken, and connection heals. Book your free 15 minute consult with Mohit Bassi, or call Thrive at 604-227-0297.